Oct. 6, 2011 @ 10:56 AM _
Accepting the end of a relationship is a lot like accepting the reality of death. It’s exactly like that, really. Maybe you’ll see them around and perhaps you’ll agree to be friends when it’s all over, but you’ll never really see that person the same way you once did. A piece of yourself dies with its demise, and you learn to appreciate the moments you once took for granted.
The dagger of a dying relationship is jagged; you know you can’t fix it once it’s failing, but you’ll try. You might spend days or weeks wishing you could go back and do things differently, take a different approach. Time will continue to move forward, so slowly at times that it’s almost as if you’re standing still.
The echo of voices that swear it’s for the best will suffocate you. But you won’t see it, you can’t believe it. And though I know you dare not believe me, I’ve been in your shoes and those words hold true. If you can’t accept the end of a relationship it’s because your heart simply is not ready to. The human heart is an incomprehensible thing that cannot be controlled at will.
It doesn’t happen overnight and it’s often so slow it cannot be seen, but the healing process is a beautiful one. You’ll wake up one morning, the sun will be streaming through the window, and it’ll be the first time you realize that your heart is still beating. The pain of a breakup is a necessary step in the journey to becoming whole. I can promise that you’ll hate every moment of it, but when that morning comes and you’re looking into your reflection you’ll be looking at someone who is more in-tune with the person they were meant to become. You’ll know what you want, and what you don’t. What makes you happy, and what tears you apart. And the truth is, it doesn’t matter who was right or wrong because this moment, right now, is the first step on the journey to a better you.
The best advice for getting over a breakup? Sit back, strap in and hang on for the ride. Stop trying to cock-block your heart from going through the phases it was meant to because I promise you, the rocky road to acceptance is worth every step in the end. You’ve gotta find strength to believe that when your heart is finally ready to accept it and move on, it won’t let you down.
- quoted from theftbyink
Sep. 14, 2011 @ 3:37 PM _
“We mistake sex for romance. Guys are taught that pushing a girl up against a wall is romance. Sex is easy; you can do it with anyone, yourself, with batteries. Romance is when someone you like walks into a room and they take your breath away. Romance is when two people are dancing and they fit together perfectly. Romance is when two people are walking next to each other and all of a sudden they find themselves holding hands, and they don’t know how that happened.”
-John C. Moffi
Aug. 12, 2011 @ 10:38 AM _
There are exceptions. Count of Monte Cristo with Jim Cavi- with Jesus, LotR etc.
Apr. 13, 2011 @ 4:44 PM _“I died as a mineral and became a plant,
Apr. 13, 2011 @ 4:42 PM _“
This is what is signified by the words Anā l-Ḥaqq, “I am God.”
People imagine that it is a presumptuous claim, whereas it is really a presumptuous claim to say Ana ‘l-‘abd, “I am the slave of God”; and Anā l-Ḥaqq, “I am God” is an expression of great humility. The man who says Ana ‘l-‘abd, “I am the servant of God” affirms two existences, his own and God’s, but he that says Anā l-Ḥaqq, “I am God” has made himself non-existent and has given himself up and says “I am God”, that is, “I am naught, He is all; there is no being but God’s.”
This is the extreme of humility and self-abasement.”
— Commenting on the famous expression of Mansur al-Hallaj, for which al-Hallaj was executed as a blasphemer, in The Mathnawí of Jalálu’ddín Rúmí, Vol. 4, part 7, edited by Reynold Alleyne Nicholson (1940) p. 248